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Anonymous lady(REAL NAME IS HIDDEN FOR USER PRIVACY) ask:

“As slam alikum

I have a question if husband want to have sex in the day time normally but in ramadan wife is fasting and husband is not fasting because of diabetes and he want sex what should wife do? “

ANSWER:

“AsalamOalikum Warahmatulahi Wabarakatuh!
My dear sister, The answer is in the Qur’an:
Quran ayat :

“Translation: It has been made permissible for you the night preceding  fasting to go to your wives [for sexual relations]. They are clothing  for you and you are clothing for them. Allah knows that you used to  deceive yourselves, so He accepted your repentance and forgave you. So  now, have relations with them and seek that which Allah has decreed  for you. […] (Surah Baqarah, verse 187)
Based on this ayah, scholars have said that it’s permissible for  couples to have physical relations during the nights of Ramadan (which  I believe is what you’re asking about). Although the translation here  says “the night preceding fasting,” it talks about during Ramadan.

Also, It’s worth noting that fasting prohibits only the actual act of  intercourse. Aisha narrated that:

The Prophet would kiss during the month of fasting. (Jaami  at-Tirmidhi, grade: Sahih)”

One of my visitor ask a question:
“Assalamu `alaykum.
Is it permissible to have intercourse (sex) with
husband during Ramadan time?
Jazakum Allahu khayran.”

So the answer is,
Wa`alaykum as-salamu wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.
In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and
blessings be upon His Messenger.

A Muslim is allowed to have intercourse with his or her spouse
after breaking the fast and until dawn (the time of
abstention from food, drink, and gratifications). However,
one who is fasting should never overstep the boundaries of
fasting by having intercourse with his or her spouse while
fasting.
In his response to your question, Sheikh Ahmad Kutty, a
senior lecturer and Islamic scholar at the Islamic Institute of
Toronto, Ontario, Canada, states the following:
While it is forbidden to establish any conjugal relations
with one’s spouse while one is fasting during the day,
one is certainly allowed to do so during the night until
the arrival of dawn (i.e., fajr).
Allah says:
{It is made lawful for you to go to your wives (in
sexual relations) on the night of the fast. They
are a garment for you and you are a garment
for them. Allah knows that you were deceiving
yourself in this respect and He has turned in
mercy towards you and pardoned you.
Therefore you may now have intercourse with
them and seek what Allah has ordained for
you. Eat and drink until the white thread (of
dawn) becomes distinct to you from the black
thread (of night)} (Al-Baqarah 2:187).

In short, we are allowed to enjoy intimate sexual
relations after breaking the fast throughout the night
until the time of abstention from food, drink, and
gratifications (i.e. when the time of fajr arrives).
Allah Almighty knows best.

So, in short, you can’t do intercourse if you’re fasting even if he wasn’t.

Wallahu a’lam.”

Common Sex: Questions and Answers

Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About Sex

Questions about sex are many. Many people may become confused when facing a problem concerning their sexual relation with their wives. What follows is a set of rules, in the form of questions and answers if applied you will have a happy marital life.

For Both Partners

 

Q) How do the partners satisfy each other? 

Many husbands are selfish. They want only to satisfy themselves. They do not bother about satisfying their wives. They just seek after their own satisfaction. No sooner do they ejaculate than they stop making love with their wives. As a matter of fact, women do not orgasm during intercourse, and even if one’s wife is capable of climax, the odds are very much against you coming at the same time. A husband should control himself until he satisfies his wife.

Q) How could sexual satisfaction of the partners concur?

Some men are so self-centered that they do not bother about whether their wives are satisfied or not. They are only interested in satisfying themselves. As a matter of fact women have desire similar to men s. However men orgasm too soon. Thus men should do their best to delay the moment of ejaculation as late as possible. The more concurrent the spouse, the happier they are. Therefore, the husband who controls the sexual intercourse with his wife should put into his consideration that he is required to satisfy his wife too.

Q) What drugs should we take to strengthen our genitals?

Sexual drugs have only temporary effects. Addicting to it may lead to the deficiency of one’s sexual capability. However, if one wants to strengthen his sexual capabilities, he would better practice sports, have a rest, eat well and get rid of his own affliction and sorrow.

Q) What if someone ejaculates after urination?

There is no harm if the semen ejaculated is little. This may be due to the wide opening of one’s penis, which in turn may drain the surplus semen. However, if this case takes a long time or the amount of semen is too much, it may be classified as a disease. Vitamin (B) and Ocotene are very useful in such a case. Young men should avoid erotic scenes or readings.

Q) What is semen? 

The amount of semen ejaculated in one stroke is about 53 cm. Each cm. contains about sixty million chromosomes. Examining one’s semen under microscope, we will find out that there are many countless numbers of active chromosomes.

Q) What are the causes of sexual weakness?

(1) Excessive love making

(2) Early love making

(3) Masturbation

(4) Physical weakness

(5) Physical or mental exhaustion

(6) Diseases

(7) Psychological disorder

(8) Drugs like opium

(9) Smoking

(10) Wine

(11) Contraception

(12) Fear

Q) What if I orgasm too soon?

The period of sexual intercourse the people spend is not the same. Some have the ability to keep having sexual intercourse with their wives until they satisfy each other while others can not. If you actually climax much too soon before you wanted to, take your time, take a nap and try again when you should be much more relaxed and ready to take your time.

 

Q) What time should we have sex?

When you have sex does not really matter. What should matter instead is that you and your wife have sex when you are comfortable. Such an act may be virtually done after the dawn prayer when both husband and wife are comfortable.

Q) What position should I use?

There are many common ways in which couples physically position themselves for sexual intercourse.

The man-on-top position is the most common and preferable of all intercourse positions. In some cases such a position may turn upside down, to be woman-on-top position. But it is harmful to have sexual intercourse with your wife while standing. It is also better not to eat a heavy meal, since that will just make you sleepy.

Q) How should newly married spouses behave?

(1) To learn how to love each other

(2) Sexual harmony may not be attained in the beginning of the marital life.

(3) To be loved you should love first.

Q) How could the spouse keep love each other?

(1) Give her a red flower or any romantic one.

(2) Have breakfast with her in bed occasionally.

(3) Keep every thing that reminds you with the honey month and any good day you spend together.

(4) Give her a call from your work to tell her that you love her.

(5) Have a picnic together in the weekend.

(6) Go together to the seashore to see the sun setting.

(7) Tell her what you think in and hope for.

(8) Bring her what she prefers of perfumes.

(9) Keep your personal belongings tidy and neatly.

(10) Keep looking at her lovingly and praise her dress and compo

(11) Give her a hot kiss before leaving or returning home.

Q) What if I ejaculate too soon?

(1) Do something else for a while.

(2) A wife may encourage her husband by letting him do what he wants freely and without any ironical gesture.

(3) A husband may wear a condom.

 

Q) What is impotence?

Impotence is the weakness of the masculine organ . It is of two types: physical or Psychological. Psychological impotence is caused by one’s Psychological disorder. Physical impotence may because of a disease that affects one’s sexual organs or prostate. As for Psychological impotence can easily be treated. That is natural- you are nervous, take your time, don’t be angry, don’t think of your financial lose and don’t exhaust yourself in work.

Q) How can virginity membrane be deflowered?

Long for play, caressing and fondling are so important that they stimulate the wife’s glands that intern excrete some kinds of liquids which let the penis enter the vagina easily.

 

Q) What position should be used when deflowering the virginity?

(1) To do that, have your wife lie down on her back with her knees spread and bent to shoulder level. In doing so, the vagina will easily be opened, letting the penis easily penetrate.

(2) For the woman-on-top position, the man lies on his back and the woman lowers herself onto his erect penis. On top the woman can regulate and control the first entry accurately.

Q) What is the role of kissing in generating love?

Emotional relations among people are not the same. Some people may be satisfied by just kissing the partner’s head. Others may prefer kissing lips. The kiss is the means by which one can measure the degree of his partner’s love.

Q) What are the harms transmitted through kissing?

If one has a hot kiss without completing the sexual intercourse, he may get a disease called mononucleosis, just from kissing. One should not exaggerate in kissing and caressing his partner so long as he would not like to have sexual intercourse with her.

Q) Is there any relation between food and sexual ability?

A human body needs food to grow and to live healthy. However, the quality of one’s food is more important than quantity.

Q) How can a husband remain capable all the life?

Moderate sex, may be two or three times a week in the beginning of their marital life and then it may be reduced to two or one.

Q) Does a big penis satisfy the woman more than a smaller one?

You have probably heard horror stories about the ideal size of penis and that the woman loves the man who has a big penis. As a matter of fact, the average penis is thirteen to eighteen centimeters in length when erect, and that is more than enough to satisfy a woman. The vagina is capable of stretching to take a large penis or shape itself to pleasure a small one. Size has very little to do with one’s ability as a lover.

Q) What about Masturbation?

Excessive masturbation has many effects: physical or psychological. It may lead to fast ejaculation or weak erection when marrying. But after practicing natural and legal intercourse, he regains his sexual capability again. Such people would better practice sports and read and avoid erotic scenes.

Q) Does sex spoil love?

Unlawful sex will surely spoil it. This is because unrestricted sex may be boring. Lovers beyond the pale of marriage will surely separate each other.

Q) What are the differences between man and woman concerning sensual relationship?

  1. Women’s desire changes from time to time. Sometimes it increases and another time decreases. On the other hand, man’s desire has no time.

  2. Unlike woman, man is easy to stimulate. He does not need to show erotic scenes or foreplay to practice sex. On the other hand, woman needs to be stimulated before sex.

  3. Unlike man, woman needs a long time to reach the point of orgasm.

Q)What about the circumcision of females?

Circumcision is to cut the front part of the clitoris. It is forbidden in countries where moderate or hot weather. But it is necessary in hot climate because it leads to an unusual sexual sensitivity. It is recommended to cut only a small part of the clitoris to preserve her sensual desire.

Q)What if one fails to be erotic while having sexual intercourse? 

This may be due to one’s systematic life. The wife is mainly responsible for such a case. She would better wear erotic clothes, speak and behave in erotic manner.

Q) How could a husband continue having sexual relation as long as he lives?

 

  1. He should be moderate in having sexual intercourse.

  2. He should not exhaust himself mentally or physically.

  3. Abstaining from wine, smoking and erotic medicine.

  4. Having trust in one’s self.

  5. Exchanging love, lovely words and passionate glances.

  6. Having delicious and nutritious food.

  7. Using different perfumes.

Q) What do enemies of Islam want from the Muslim woman?

There are those who want to distract the woman from doing your her. They want to distract her from meeting her noble obligation that is, to defend the religion of Allah and raise His Word high. Those enemies use many methods:

First: They distract her from what Allah created her to perform of worship, belief and Da’wah (disseminating Islam). They use this worldly life as their bate: Jewelry stores, fashions that originate in non-Muslim countries, new models all the time, desires raised, hunger that can never be satisfied, pleasures and competition for them and endless ways for joy. Allah did not create us for this. Indulging in these matters is usually accompanied by wasting time and money and igniting enmity and competition between the rich and the poor.

Second: They ignite enmity between woman and man. To those sinners, she is a daughter that is put down, a humiliated mother, an abused wife and an oppressed sister! Men are always unjust, hypocrites, dictators, freedom ­preventers and suppressers according to them. There is a fabricated war that those evil ones are starting for no reason other than to direct her to rebel against her father, be arrogant with her brother and disobedient to her husband. They do not call for justice, mercy and unity. They call for hatred, arrogance and destruction.

Third: They do not stop at their call for rebellion against parents, brothers and husbands; rather, they plot against Islam. They call upon you to rebel against the obligations of Islam and the decrees of the All-Knowing King. Islam, to them, is unjust and Islamic laws are imperfect and restrictive. They call upon her, day and night, to rebel and insist on the disobedience of this religion. They try to rid her of religion. They try to rid her of comfort and safety under generous parenthood, happy marriage and good brotherly relations.

Those devils portray piety and honor as chains on freedom. To them, Hijab does not cover the head, but also covers the mind; prayer, fasting and Zakat are a waste of time and effort; and obedience to husbands is slavery and a rectum to the Stone Age. They distorted all facts and changed all truths, all to serve their evil goals.

Q) What is the punishment for fornication and adultery?

The punishment for an unmarried person having sex is 100 lashes and banishment from the community for 1 year.

The punishment for a married or divorced person having sex with someone they’re not married to is death according to most scholars. There is a minority that say the punishment is the same as fornication.

Q) What is Zina?

Zina is illegal sexual intercourse, specifically sex with someone you’re not married to. This can be fornication (unmarried people having sex) or adultery (married people having sex with someone they’re not married to). Both require severe punishments in Islamic law.

Q) What is the punishment for fornication and adultery?

The punishment for an unmarried person having sex is 100 lashes and banishment from the community for 1 year.

The punishment for a married or divorced person having sex with someone they’re not married to is death according to most scholars. There is a minority that say the punishment is the same as fornication.

Q) Is homosexuality forbidden?

Yes, homosexuality is absolutely forbidden in Islam, no matter what Lady Gaga says. Allah says in His book:

Verily, you practise your lusts on men instead of women. Nay, but you are a people transgressing beyond bounds.

Surah A’raf, verse 81.

The punishment for committing homosexual acts under Islamic law is death.

Q) Is anal sex permissible?

No, it is not. Prophet Muhammad forbade anal sex, even between a man and a woman.
“Whoever has sexual intercourse with a menstruating woman, or a woman in her anus, or approaches a soothsayer and believes what he is told has disbelieved in that which was revealed to Muhammad.”

Q) Is oral sex permissible?

Similar to masturbation, most traditional scholars say “no.” However, modern scholars seem to lean towards it being “permissible, but not good.” There are no verses from the Quran or hadith prohibiting it. Therefore, I agree with those that say it is permissible, but disliked.

Q) Can Muslims use contraception?

In short, yes. This is a deep topic and I can’t discuss it at length here. Condoms, diaphragms, and utilizing the “withdrawal method” are all permissible so long as both spouses agree. Medical contraception that involves surgery is not permissible for men, but can be for women if medically necessary.

Q) Is abortion permissible?

In general, no. But there are exceptions, namely rape, incest, or medical reasons. This topic also requires a deep discussion and it cannot be done here. I discuss both contraception and abortion in depth in “Sex in Islam.”

Q) I can’t stop watching pornography. What can I do?

This is becoming more and more of a problem with Muslims. I don’t know how to cure this addiction (and it should be looked at as an addiction) but I think I have methods that can help, Inshallah. I’m willing to help anyone who has a problem with this.

Q) How come men can marry four wives but women can’t marry four husbands?

Because Allah has not allowed it.

Q) Me and i got married recently, i wanted to know abt sex.

  1. What are the positions and ways of having sex are legal in islam?

  2. Why should i should not touch my partner in periods?

  3. If i can Touch her, and i can do anything except INTER COURSE?

  4. I came to know some positions are not accepted in our islam, what are they?

ANSWER

Sexual liberty

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 223: Your wives are as a tilth unto you; so approach your tilth when or how ye will.

Abu Dhar al-Ghafari reported: The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: there is a reward for you [even] in sex with your wife.” The companions asked: O Messenger of Allah (saws) is there a reward if one satisfies his passion?” He (saws) said: “Do you know that if he satisfies it unlawfully he has taken a sin upon himself? Likewise, if he satisfies it lawfully, he is rewarded.”

Related by Ahmad and Muslim.

Islam has allowed the husband and the wife in marriage every possible liberty to enjoy conjugal relations with each other, except three:

It is strictly prohibited to have sexual intercourse with ones wife during her period of menstruation.

It is strictly prohibited to enter the woman through her anus.

Although there is no specific prohibition mentioned in the Quran and Sunnah, the majority of the scholars in Islam have voiced their opinion against oral sex, whereby one touches the others private organs with their mouth.

Other than the above three restrictions, one may enjoy conjugal relations with ones wife any place, any time, and any how their hearts desire.

Q) I came to know some positions are not accepted in our islam, what are they?

My beloved brother, provided the above listed three conditions are not violated, the husband and the wife can enjoy their conjugal relations with each other in any position they wishstanding, sitting, lying down, on the sides, on one leg, in the air.any possible position they can imagine or desire.there is absolutely no restriction, nor prohibition regarding positions and ways of intercourse between a husband and a wife in their sacred union of marriage.

Q) Why should i should not touch my partner in periods?

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 222: They ask thee concerning women’s courses. Say: They are a hurt and a pollution; so keep away from women in their courses and do not approach them (intercourse) until they are clean. But when they have purified themselves ye may approach them in any manner time or place ordained for you by Allah. For Allah loves those who turn to Him constantly and He loves those who keep themselves pure and clean.

Allah Subhanah has Commanded the believers to abstain from having the actual act of intercourse with their wives while they are in the state of menses or periods.

There is absolutely no prohibition in the husband touching their wife during her condition of menses; the only place prohibited for the husband to touch or approach is the sexual organ of his wifeother than this one organ, there is absolutely no harm or prohibition in touching, playing or enjoying their relations with their wives.

Q) If i can Touch her, and i can do anything except INTER COURSE(during the womans menstruation)?

The Messenger of Allah (saws) said, “Do everything (during the womans menstruation) except intercourse.”

Related by Muslim, Tirmidhi, and Abu Dawood.

The Messenger of Allah (saws) permitted the believers to do everything except the actual act of sexual intercourse with their wives while they are in their state of menses.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Q) Is it permissible to say inappropriate words (i.e., words that are not permissible) during intercourse in order to provoke desire in one’s wife?

Praise be to Allaah.

It is permissible for both husband and wife to say whatever they want to provoke desire during intercourse, and that does not have to be something that was narrated in the Sunnah, but it is not permissible to say anything that is forbidding in Islam, such as lies or slanderous words. But with regard to mentioning the genitals by their colloquial names or other things that provoke desire in word or deed, the basic principle is that it is permissible.

Some of the scholars are of the view that this is makrooh, and they regarded it as contrary to proper etiquette. But the correct view is that it is permissible. Even if we accept that it is makrooh, then that ruling may be lifted when there is the least need for it, and the need her is obvious.

If it is permissible for the husband to touch his wife’s private part, look at it and enjoy it, then it is more appropriate that he is permitted to call it by a name that will provoke his wife; and the converse is also permitted.

 

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